Saturday, August 8, 2009

My Example

It's my mother's birthday. I miss her very much. She has been gone about 13 years now. My sister called from Japan called this morning at 3 am. She's misses Mom too. She is going thru something really hard right now and wants her mom. I know the feeling. It's hard to be an orphan, no matter how old you are.

I was always a difficult child. From cutting the next door neighbors long pony tail off with the LAWN CLPPERS when I was 3 (in my defense she did ask for a haircut ) to the years for drug abuse. I was a hard child to love. After my mother and dad died I was in rehab ( again ) and was on the pity pot most of the time. I was saying my prayers, and I was demanding a sign that my mother loved me as much as she loved my sisters. I needed to know that she loved me. I no sooner said that prayer, and walked outside to the most beautiful double rainbow in the sky. That was just SO my mother. She loved the outdoors. She would hike till her toenails fell off! I know my mother loves me! That is one of my most favorite stories. I felt that rainbow was a gift from a loving Heavenly Father and a loving Mom.

I love my two sisters. They are beautiful women inside and out. I see my mother and father in them. I love to be in their presence. We love to laugh! They are 2 funny chicas! We have use laughter to get thru the hard times in our lives. It's how we got thru mom's illness and death. I am so grateful for the relationship that I have with them. We live far from each other, but we know we can count on each other. Like calling at 3 am, and knowing that someone will answer the phone. It's a good feeling.

This post hasn't been about weight or food today. It's about relationships. The relationships that mean the most to you. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Ask yourself if you are doing all you can to enrich your relationships. Tell your friends and family how much they mean to you. Even better, let your actions do the talking for you!

I am off to a big clothing exchange my church is doing. I have lots of clothes to get rid of, so it will be fun to see what others bring. There are some real sharp dressed women in my ward! Then out to see my daughter and grandkids for the afternoon. I have already been on a 4 mile walk and had a big bowl of watermelon for breakfast. Mom wouldn't want me to feel sad and stress eat on her birthday. She'd want me to be happy. Good choices make me happy. She herself lost around 80 lbs when she was in her 40's. Became a runner too. My example.

Have a great weekend, appreciate your family............keep the mood and the food real.

18 comments:

  1. What a lovely post, and I feel like I have gotten to know your mom just a little. How cool that she lost weight in her 40's and took up running! A great example, indeed.

    Hope you have a wonderful day and come home with some great fitting "new" clothes along with good memories of time spent with your family!

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  2. Great post. This journey we're on is centered around our food and our health choices too much sometimes; it's nice to step back and see the big picture sometimes. Thanks for the reminder.

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  3. I lost my mom five years ago and it feels like I miss her more and more as time passes. Thank you for this lovely post.

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  4. It is always so hard when the anniversary of a death comes around. I miss my grandparents so much! Thank you for sharing the importance of relationships with us- I agree, tell the people you love how much they mean to you-Life is too short! :)

    Enjoy your day today - hope you swap some good clothes! :)

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  5. Nice tribute. I'm sure she would have loved it. And I'm happy to share a b-day with someone who loved life so well.

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  6. I love the double rainbow story! That just made me smile big!

    I like that you used the term orphan. I was talking to my cousin after dad died and I said I felt like an orphan. She bit into me and said I was 43 years old, had two parents who loved me, and I was never an orphan. Ouch! I don't care, I still feel like an orphan.

    Your mother would want you to celebrate her today. =)

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  7. That is a great story. I live far from my family too. I will call them today. Thanks!!

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  8. It is 2 years since my mom passed and it is hard being an orphan at any age. My brother, sister and I are trying to get adopted, but it is hard getting someone to take us all together.

    Seriously odd things happen here on the anniversary of her passing, so I know she is looking out for us. We had a life-threatening situation last year and she tried to warn me, but I didn't realise and this year, both myself and my son got random text messages (mine said "do you know where your mom is?" and my son's said "do you know where gran is?"). She had just learnt to text before she died.

    The mother/child bond is a strong one - yours is still watching over you too!

    Enjoy the sale - hope you get some nice new clothes - you deserve them.

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  9. I live so far away from my mother and I miss her everyday. I wish that I had the kind of relationship you have with your sisters. Mine are so much older than me (15 & 13 years) and only one of them really speaks to me. It's very sad. You are so blessed to have sister you can laugh with! Thank you for reminding us today how important it is to love our loved ones while we can. I hope you have had a great day and brought home some nice clothes. Blessings--Bonnie

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  10. I loved your story about the rainbow. I am also glad that you have your sisters and that they are there for you anytime you need them.

    She would want you to have fun today and it sounds like you are going to :-)

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  11. It's my Mam's birthday today. :) You have really hit a nerve talking about relationships, especially mother/daughter. I LOVE my Mam. And I hate her weightloss attitude but we're working on things. :) I spent all of today with her.

    *hugs* I can't think of a time I've not had her support and I daren't bare to think of a time she won't be here. Babes, lovely post.

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  12. What a sweet post about your mom and your sisters. Hope you have a great weekend.

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  13. Hey girl...you got me with this one. Just sitting here thinking about my own mom. It's been almost seven years for me and time sure doesn't make me miss her any less. I'm sure your mom's very proud of the progress you're making...both in weight loss and in life :)

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  14. Are you LDS too!? Again, I loved reading your post. You are inspiring.

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  15. Loved the post! I had forgotten the story about the double rainbow... it's a good one! So sorry you have had one disaster after another... isn't there a quota? Life IS hard, but it's also pretty hillarious... and so much better when you're surrounded with love.

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  16. Well said! Family is everything!

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  17. Sending hugs and prayers your way. There's nothing like the mother/daughter bond. It's been less than 3 months since my mom died, so it's still pretty raw. But I, too, have two great sisters and one brother and we all have a little bit of her in us. May the good memories give you joy.

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  18. Wait, less than 4 months. I guess it has been a little more than 3 months.

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