Sunday, April 24, 2011

Happy Easter

There is the Motley Crew just before we released them to hunt for eggs. I had everyone over for Easter Dinner yesterday. It could have been a great time, but the woman at work called and told me that it wasn't going to work out and there went the job. She was very vague. Just not a right fit. In 25 years of doing this I have never been told I wasn't a right fit. I was pretty much crushed for the afternoon. To make matters worse, I had invited a sweet girl that worked there with me. I know she felt terrible. I am still feeling fragile this morning. Scared and just down right frustrated. I already have a line on another job. I am questioning myself all over the place. I can only be me. That ME has been satisfying the people I cared for for the past 25 years. She can't be all bad. The hubs didn't like the home care agency he had in there before, so I guess I am not the only "professional" he didn't like. Something good is just around the corner. I feel so limited by my past. For the past 10 years that I have been clean I worked for the school and it didn't matter. Well it matters now. I think I am going to talk with my bishop and see is he knows a lawyer that might help me out for little or no money. It's quite expensive to clean up your "record". It's must now though. So that is going to be a major goal for me to work on. I know I deserve a better job then I have now. This is the only way to get it. Now I am forced to take anything I can get. Don't get me wrong. I am grateful for any job that comes my way. It's just cleaning someone else's toilet isn't my dream job.

This is were I wallow in the self pity. Pissed off at myself for all the wasted years of using. I was a licensed nurse. I made a great living. Would I take my license back over getting clean? Hell no. It took what it took for me to put the stuff down and walk away. It's just that this has brought up all those feeling of shame. I got fired all the time when I was using. Lots of old feeling have come up in the past month. I went on a spending orgy when I went to Utah. Old behavior. I got caught up in it. My sister from Japan loves to shop. She however has money and a hubs that makes money. All in all I didn't spend that much, but it almost felt like a relapse. In a way it was. I got caught up in something outside myself. Then kept doing it though I really didn't want to. It makes me feel so icky. For some reason I am torturing myself with the icks

After everyone left I ate too many rolls and too much ham. My eyes are swollen and I can't make a fist. Again, feel like I relapsed. I did. I used food and ate my way into a coma. I have decided however to not dwell on this. I am going to press on. Move forward. I am going to just do the next right thing. First, I need to get my ass out the door and walk. 2nd, I am going to church. I don't feel like it, that's why I need to go. I will prob go out and go with my daughter and help with the kids. See them in their Easter best. Tomorrow I will start pounding the pavement, so to speak, and find something else. I am not the only person looking for a job. I have faith that this won't be for long. I need to figure out exactly what is the most important thing to do and then proceed. Getting the ham out of the house is the 3rd thing. It's going out to my daughter's. Along with the rolls.

A fresh start on Easter Morning. How appropriate. I can do hard things. I can do them with a smile on my face. I CAN! I loved Roxie's post today. I could relate to it on so many differnt levels.

keep the mood and the food real..........


  1. I am so sorry to hear about the job loss. I'm sure it's not about you and that there will be something better for you very soon.

    You, Dana, are the most resilient person I know.

  2. My mother-in-law had a live-in (24/7) for 8 months before she passed away. We had to let a fine lady go for no good reason. What was the problem? Nothing. MIL didn't like her accent even though this lady was the most qualified and was great. I'm still ashamed of my MIL's attitude. We told the lady the truth so she wouldn't go through what you're going through. She thanked us for being candid and said that it's not uncommon in that generation (age 91.) My guess is that the "fit" thing is code for some other irrational bias. Her loss.

  3. Please don't take what that woman said personally. Like Splugie said, she may have had reasons that had nothing to do with you. And something much better may come along.

    Hang in there, hon! Hope church was able to help you feel better.

  4. So sorry about the job, Dana. I'm sure it's a matter of the strangeness that comes with aging and not you. I know something wonderful will come your way soon; in the meantime, I think it's great that you are going to address your record. It's time to get that cleaned up and get your employment world opened up a bit more.


    and words 'I feel so limited by my past' are powerful ones, Dana. And yet you are not.
    you had your moment of wallowage and are moving forward.
    taking action.

    good is indeed waiting out there for you.



  6. Sorry to hear about the job. But you hold your head high and use it as a positive...that you can overcome SOOOO much! Persistence, have it my dear!!!!!

    Praying for good things to come your way!

  7. I can do hard things!
    You can do hard things.
    You taught me that!


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